It was the beginning of November when I just lost someone I truly cared about. The cultural differences were playing the major part on our behalf so we decided that being together will make no sense. I’ve lost the only hope thinking that everything was over. Every time I was close to finding love or should I say – I thought I was- the fact was that I wasn’t close at all. So why was it always happening to me then? Luck I guess..... Losing hope I thought that this time I will throw everything in hands of the destiny. I came to realise that there was no point of forcing myself to finding love when at the end everything was shattered just because it hasn’t been written in my destiny. That’s why I have made so many mistakes that I was regretting.
I don’t know exactly what made me to sign up to that website. Another hope or chance that I will finally meet someone. Also, I don’t know what made me to send the messages to the couple of Indian guys in a row. I have told to myself that for the last time if in case something will happen in my life I once again will try to be with someone from other culture. It was my dream and the best chance to prove other people including my parents that as long as you love someone the culture or the differences in faith and religion will not stand on the way. That this is actually possible. But I’ve only heard- you’re living in your own world again!!! It was making me upset and there was this time that I thought others were right. One last chance – I was telling myself and if it will not work out then I will try to search for someone from my background.
Days and days were passing and there was nothing. One day I came back from the university logged into the website and I’ve received the message from some guy called Ian. After that we started chatting. It was a while when we have decided to exchange numbers just in case. I wasn’t sure whether I wanted this or not as I had this feeling like it was too early yet to start something that I will not be able to predict how is it going to work out and knowing my luck I knew that it was better for me to stay away from everything at least for now to clean my head with what I did in the past.
I still have no idea how it happened but one day when I was about to finish the university a little bit earlier than usual I have sent him a text message asking if he wants to meet up with me. He agreed and we had a first meeting. Everything was about getting to know each other and the thing I liked the most about him was that he never rushed things. I didn’t take me long time to like him as somehow I had this feeling like he seemed different than other guys.
I decided that I will let to know him first before making any further steps like inviting him to my place or something. On our fourth date we have finally kissed – and the kiss was really long, nice and passionate. However I was still fighting to not to fall in love with him for one main reason – I didn’t wanted to get hurt again. After meeting up quite a couple of times and having such a nice conversations and time I have to admit – I have fallen in love. We quickly got engaged and I started doing some mistakes which he was always forgiving me. Love means forgiving. Everything happened so quickly that I wasn’t ready. I came to realise that for the first time in my life I am – with someone who actually loves me in return and second of all – he’s really serious about me.
There was a time when before I was getting spoiled by my parents. They were keeping making up stories that he might be doing this only for a visa or when everyone got bored about that topic then my stepdad was saying that he is going to be the reason for me to fail my exams. However the moment they have met him a couple of times they started loving him and those topics quickly disappeared from my life. I was really so happy that my parents quickly approved my relationship with him however a little bit jealous that he have actually managed to gain the better reputation for my parents than me.
We have also managed to make this most impossible step. When he was in India I have given him all of my details and he had given it to the priest as it was important for his parents to know how are we going to suit each other as a couple and if our marriage is going to work out. We have been stressing out but one day we finally got the reply that I got even a little bit better score than his sister in law. We were so happy that I couldn’t even imagine. It meant that we had approval from both sides, our families were happy with us being together so there was no implications with our relationship. Right now we are living happily ever after and are planning to get married.
Monika Chmura
I don’t know exactly what made me to sign up to that website. Another hope or chance that I will finally meet someone. Also, I don’t know what made me to send the messages to the couple of Indian guys in a row. I have told to myself that for the last time if in case something will happen in my life I once again will try to be with someone from other culture. It was my dream and the best chance to prove other people including my parents that as long as you love someone the culture or the differences in faith and religion will not stand on the way. That this is actually possible. But I’ve only heard- you’re living in your own world again!!! It was making me upset and there was this time that I thought others were right. One last chance – I was telling myself and if it will not work out then I will try to search for someone from my background.
Days and days were passing and there was nothing. One day I came back from the university logged into the website and I’ve received the message from some guy called Ian. After that we started chatting. It was a while when we have decided to exchange numbers just in case. I wasn’t sure whether I wanted this or not as I had this feeling like it was too early yet to start something that I will not be able to predict how is it going to work out and knowing my luck I knew that it was better for me to stay away from everything at least for now to clean my head with what I did in the past.
I still have no idea how it happened but one day when I was about to finish the university a little bit earlier than usual I have sent him a text message asking if he wants to meet up with me. He agreed and we had a first meeting. Everything was about getting to know each other and the thing I liked the most about him was that he never rushed things. I didn’t take me long time to like him as somehow I had this feeling like he seemed different than other guys.
I decided that I will let to know him first before making any further steps like inviting him to my place or something. On our fourth date we have finally kissed – and the kiss was really long, nice and passionate. However I was still fighting to not to fall in love with him for one main reason – I didn’t wanted to get hurt again. After meeting up quite a couple of times and having such a nice conversations and time I have to admit – I have fallen in love. We quickly got engaged and I started doing some mistakes which he was always forgiving me. Love means forgiving. Everything happened so quickly that I wasn’t ready. I came to realise that for the first time in my life I am – with someone who actually loves me in return and second of all – he’s really serious about me.
There was a time when before I was getting spoiled by my parents. They were keeping making up stories that he might be doing this only for a visa or when everyone got bored about that topic then my stepdad was saying that he is going to be the reason for me to fail my exams. However the moment they have met him a couple of times they started loving him and those topics quickly disappeared from my life. I was really so happy that my parents quickly approved my relationship with him however a little bit jealous that he have actually managed to gain the better reputation for my parents than me.
We have also managed to make this most impossible step. When he was in India I have given him all of my details and he had given it to the priest as it was important for his parents to know how are we going to suit each other as a couple and if our marriage is going to work out. We have been stressing out but one day we finally got the reply that I got even a little bit better score than his sister in law. We were so happy that I couldn’t even imagine. It meant that we had approval from both sides, our families were happy with us being together so there was no implications with our relationship. Right now we are living happily ever after and are planning to get married.
Monika Chmura
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